1. Be able to defend yourself.
You need to be strong and skilled enough to physically attack and defend yourself, your family and your property.
You need to be smart enough, educated enough or know where to look in order to defend verbally and legally against those who would take advantage of you.
2. Be able to attract people.
You need to be attractive enough that both men and women from all walks of life want to talk to you and interact with you in a mutually beneficial way. You need to develop the attributes of charisma, physical beauty, intellect, and knowledge of social psychology.
3. Be able to be solitary.
This seems to be almost the opposite of the previous point, but it is in fact a corollary. You must be attractive enough to yourself to not need others to prop you up. You need to learn to like yourself.
Some of the training is toward being able to be alone, work alone, act alone. It is truly surprising how many boys and men cannot be solitary. They need their internet, their phone, their music, their coffee, their food, their city, their friends all around them. It takes courage to be alone.
4. To seek satisfaction rather than happiness.
Happiness is to satisfaction like a one-night stand compared to a long time lover; one is shallow and feel-good, the other is mature, intense and builds upon the past. It’s like fast food compared to a good meal.
Happiness is a state of mind. The only skill in developing it is the persistence to change thought patterns. That is not to say one shouldn’t try to become happier… however happiness is not the goal. Happiness is a emotion that can be summoned at will through practice.
Satisfaction can only come about after one has achieved one’s will. Satisfaction is temporary, but regular feelings of satisfaction lead to fulfilment. The pride that is rolled up in satisfaction only increases the power. The more difficult the task the higher the feelings of pride and satisfaction. Thus the equation:
Difficulty of task + Achievement of task = (Satisfaction + Pride)Time = Fulfilment
I know, I’m a math wiz, right?
In layman’s, a difficult task is performed that one has set for himself. This task achievement results in self-satisfaction and an increase in pride. Over time the sum of many tasks performed leads to fulfilment: a lasting sense of self-worth and super-potential.
Without pride, fulfilment is diminished as the self seeks to explain away the reason for success as that of outside forces.
Without task achievement there is little satisfaction as the goal has not been reached.
If the goal is too easy then the fulfilment is diminished as pride demands difficulty as a price for true satisfaction.
5. Be able to Pat Your Own Back
Pats on the back are truly necessary for most to continue. The difference between a man and a boy is that a man only accepts pats from his own hand. Only he knows when he has truly achieved, where a boy seeks the approval of others and bases his satisfaction on that. True pride is generated within the heart of a man, and he never accepts another’s comments on his acts as anything but uninformed opinion.