I spent years at the bottom of the pack. While there, I could never understand why some men conducted audiences with abandon while I struggled to hold one person’s attention to a shitty story. But over time I noticed that some actions improved attraction measurably, while others stank. I worked hard at the non-smelly ones and have non-bottom pack status to show for it.
I am still far from being charismatic. But people listen to me. They pay attention when I have something to say. Women like to be around me.
My ability to attract others has increased through conscious improvement. Here’s what I’ve worked on over the last decade to improve my personal magnetism.
Improve the body. Men and women hold healthy looking people in high esteem. If you look big, healthy and strong, people pay more attention to you and value what you say. If you’re a hippo, or have to run around in the shower to get wet, then you are fading into the wallpaper socially. People literally don’t notice you, because evolution is telling them that a) you are not a physical, social or sexual threat, and b) you are not healthy and therefore cannot produce healthy babies. And that’s how you become carpet.
You want bang for your buck? This is the shiny platinum Amex you want. Exchange 3 hours a week in the gym and you’ll get attention out the wahoonie. Unless you’re a douchebag. But I’ll get to that.
Increase eye contact and improve it’s quality. Want to look like a shifty and untrustworthy junkie? If you can’t hold proper eye contact you are profoundly reducing your charisma. You look weak and shiftless. You seem uninterested, which is precisely what the Charismatic man avoids.
Eye contact takes practice and lots of it. Eye patterns are defined from birth by parents and siblings, and are more difficult to change than a Sikh’s headwear. Work on them every day. Increase eye contact one second past what is comfortable for you, then two seconds. For practice I stared at my classmates until they looked away. This improved my tolerance hugely… and almost single handedly put me at the top of the pack.
When practicing look directly into the pupils. Looking around or between the eyes is cheating. You are looking to create a connection, and deep eye contact releases oxytocin. This bathes you and your partner in a wonderful chemical bonding session.
Lastly, if uncomfortable, look sideways or up but never down. Downward glances are for submissives. Charisma comes not from being top of the pack, but from being entirely comfortable with yourself, so work on this as well.
Move and talk slowly and deliberately. Charismatic people see themselves as high value. When you are worth-y there is no need to rush. Others will rush for you. Your movements should convey deliberation, power and strength.
The ability to create and withstand tension is paramount. Submissives rush their movements and speech in order to appeal to their masters, usually because the tension of attempting equality is too great to withstand. Create instead the impression that nothing and nobody phases you, regardless of the situation. If a tough question is asked, endeavour to slow down the need to answer by taking deep breaths. Show that you are in control by using your right to answer when and how you wish. You have the power.
Think about what you say and consciously slow your speaking speed. Slowing it down will help you form whole coherent sentences and prevent ums and aahs. Quality speech patterns create perceived competence.
Own your space. Make large, sweeping, slow movements. Stand in alpha positions. Touch people in your area of influence.
Never, ever second guess yourself. Hesitation is weakness of character, and shows lack of conviction. The Charismatic Man commits, and convinces others of his certainty. Most people’s commitment is like a candle. Yours should resemble a blue, fiery, close-to-supernova star. People like to follow stars, especially when they are only yellow, smoking pigfat.
Don’t be pigfat. Be freaking awesome.