Why Are Young Guys Piss Weak?

I work with a huge 21 year old kid.  He squats 180kg for reps, benches 150kg, and is generally built like a brick shithouse.  I like to dream about being that strong.

 

"What am I doing?  Oh, just chillin'"
Just chillin’ bro, just chillin’

 

At work, however, I kick his ass at just about everything.  I undo nuts and bolts he cannot budge.  I lift things he struggles with.  At one point we had a 2lb hammer on the end of a 10 metre pole, trying to break something out of reach.  I busted my ass swinging it for 15 minutes non-stop.  He couldn’t do it more than twice.  He smashes it in the gym, but I smash him at life.

I remember being 20 years old and being in awe of 30-40 year old men.  They all seemed so goddam strong.  They had man-strength.  Undoing bolts, prying open jars, lifting, throwing… they just seemed to have so much more recruitment in their muscles.

 

Pretty much just like this guy
Just another day at the office for this guy

 

Powerlifters regularly report their best numbers after they turn forty.  When non-lifting men seem ready to start getting old, powerlifters are turning it on.  Why is that?

And why do the old blokes, the fifty to sixty year olds, still have power?  I know a sixty-seven year old mechanic who is a fucking monster.  He’s built like a Jack Russell, slim and wiry, with ropey muscles strung out like violin strings on his forearms.  He doesn’t look like much but he is strong as an ox, carrying engine blocks around his cramped workshop.

I think it’s a function of practice and coordination.

Everything we do can be thought of as practice.  Every time you ride your bike, you get marginally better at it.  Every time you open a jar, you learn a tiny bit more about using your muscles to exert force.  I theorise that with forty years of practice at hard labour, men get extraordinarily efficient at exerting force.

In addition, as we use engrams over and over in our day-to-day, we get smarter at making the right decisions to move most efficiently.

Lifting 140 pound dumbbells is an athletic movement that requires a lot of balance and coordination as well as raw strength.

Now on my second week with them, I look much smoother.

Over the course of the two weeks I may have an ounce or two of extra muscle to help move the weight, but mostly the ventral striatum and other parts of my brain had been at work refining how my muscles will work in sequence.

I did not have to consciously think about how I was going to balance the weight–in fact it felt very smooth and easier than I expected.  Well, not EASY, the struggle was with the weight of the dumbbells not their awkward size.

Over the years I have performed thousands of repetitions in the gym involving the muscles used in an incline bench press–pecs, delts, triceps.  Every repetition has helped refine the performance leading to an improved Maximal Strength.  The more repetitions, the more powerful the effort of the muscles–giving the old man the advantage again.

http://www.fitforcombatsystem.com/maximum-strength-aka-old-man-strength/

 

I’ll be getting stronger for years to come.  Fucking awesome.

 

strongman old man
FUCK YEAH MARIUSZ

Modern Man’s Intro To Principles

Are you living by your own rules, or by those pre-defined by others?

Principles: they make life easier.  In a set of principles I have a decision-making matrix. My principles are general enough that they cover a wide swathe of situations.

Principles govern my behaviour in a consistent manner.  When the world is going to shit around you, knowing how you will handle the fan-splatter effect creates a rock-solid foundation of confidence in your actions.

The prime reason I have principles is for energy.  Consistent action in certain areas cuts down on the energy overhead usually reserved for decisions.  Making decisions takes a bajillion joules of energy from your life every day.  I only have a limited amount of energy.  The more energy I conserve, the more I have to use elsewhere.  It’s the effect on your energy bill of having three minute showers instead of skin-blistering hour long marathons. Although saving personal energy is far more satisfying.  I hate three minute showers.

It’s the same reason corporations systematise their regular actions.  If they find something happening frequently, they create a system that fast-tracks the simple stuff:

  1. Been in this situation before?  Check.
  2. What did we do last time?  A, B and C.
  3. Did A, B, and C get us what we wanted?  Check.
  4. Do A, B and C.

Number three is key.  We need to decide what we want, and create our principles based on that.

 

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example time!

 

In the past, I have been overpaid by my employers.  I used to fret about whether to tell my employer and give the cash back.  I was torn between money and morals.

What did I want?  I wanted the cash, but I also wanted to not stress about 1) whether my employer was testing me, and 2) whether I was doing the “right” thing (more on the “right” thing in a moment).

Action One was giving the cash back.  I would be relieved of anxiety and stress, but I would be poorer.  Perhaps my employer would think of me as an honest person, but this would give me no benefit in real terms.

Action Two was keeping the cash.  I would stress about it, but I would have more money, a very real benefit.

My current over-riding principle in this situation is: keep the cash, AND don’t stress.  Why?  Telling my employer about paying me too much gives me no benefit at all.  In the past, perhaps, an employer would then regard you as an upstanding and honest employee who could be trusted, which may have given you an advantage at some point.  Nowadays, your boss could not give a shit about you or your apparent do-goodiness.

As for not stressing, if my boss found out and asked for it, I could simply play dumb and pay it back.  If he didn’t find out, then I have the money.  It’s a win/win.

If you give the cash back, you boss says “thanks!”, and you walk home $100 poorer.  What’s the point?  You’ll feel better about yourself?  Why?  Because you’ve “done the right thing?”  You’ve done the WRONG thing.  You have exchanged value for fluff i.e. moral virtue.

 

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Let’s talk morals for a moment.  I would hope that most of you reading this would know that morals are the rules imposed on your behaviour by an external force.  That force is cultural, and its main proponents are the parents and teachers who educated you.

Morals can be loosely defined as a code that defines appropriate behaviour.  Literally, a code of conduct.  That code is divided into a series of principles for each behaviour.

I reject externally imposed morality because in general those morals benefit society more than myself.  Society in this case being most people in my country who are not me, and primarily those people with lots of money and power who are also not me.  I don’t reject all of society’s morals, I merely reserve the right to choose the ones that work for me and reject the ones that belong in a bucket of shit.

Morals should be personally defined according to principle and the cultural matrix in which you live.  For example, I might want to slaughter my neighbour for stealing some mayonnaise when I went out for a kebab.  Goddamn delicious-mayonaisse-stealing asshole.  If I did so, because of our culture the police would kidnap me and remove my ability to live freely for a number of years.  Butt-rape in prison is not an outcome that I desire, therefore I reject murder as a behavioural outcome of principle.  Not because it is inherently “bad” in all situations, but because the culturally-imposed repercussions of murder are extremely bad for me.

 

Scary prisoner says, PICK UP THE SOAP

 

We should also talk about “good/right” and “bad/wrong”.  What is good and bad is also culturally defined.  I would hope that you also know this as an educated man.  I define “good/right” as that which energises and benefits me and my family over the short to long term.  I define “bad/wrong” as the opposite of that.  Simple.

Not everything good and right is possible.  Not everything bad and wrong is avoidable.  This is cultural impact on personal morals, and it’s just the way things are.

 

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So let’s talk specifics.  I want to talk about one of the most important of my principles.  This one has saved me so much energy over the years, and so much stress and heartache.

Do what you say.

 

This one guiding principle has helped me in so many ways. Back when I was a loser I would make plans with friends that I never intended to keep.  Or I would be in two minds about whether to go out with them.  I now know that if I am going to say I will do something, I’d better move heaven and hell to do it.  If that is to be the case, I have to be careful with my words, and not promise anything I cannot deliver.  That means I have to maintain awareness during conversation and also be discreet.

 

This principle not only cuts down on stress, it also makes me into a better, more aware person. 

 

This one principle cuts down an incredible energy overhead.  I no longer have to think about whether I going to do something or not.  Have I told someone I would?  Yes?  Then I am doing it.  The social benefits of such an attitude should be obvious.

This one principle is so internally satisfying that it should be elevated to a religious precept.

The correlate to this principle is: Watch your mouth.  Don’t say anything you don’t plan to follow through with.

I got this off a good friend.  Once I asked him if he wanted to hang out.  He said he’d like to, but for whatever reason, no.

I was taken aback.  Who the hell could be so honest?  What sort of person didn’t mitigate at all?  I was so impressed with his behaviour that I adopted it on the spot.  Nowadays I can’t believe I was ever that soft…

 

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The moral of this story is:  Begin to create your own morality.  Decide on the principles that both enhance the energy in your life and cut out the crap.

Begin NOW.

 

 

 

Change Who You Are

You are obliged to change into the best fucking man you can be. Anything less is an affront to every ancestor who died to bring you here. To not change is to negate your life and every DNA-bearer’s existence before you. If you do not change you are a life-hater. Fuck you.

caveman stabs gorilla
Ugg says: Change or I beat you with fair maiden

 

When I say the Best Man You Can Be, I mean the:

strongest,
most intelligent,
most charismatic,
most dextrous,
most highly and broadly skilled,
most coordinated,
most well spoken,
best connected man you can become.

 

Somehow there are people out there who believe self-change is not possible. People like my parents *know* that their character is set in stone, that emotions and attributes such as happiness, generosity, anger, artistry etc are all innate and immutable.

The rest of us know that’s a steaming pile of horseshit. ALL of your attributes can be changed and improved. ALL of your emotional states can be changed, especially negative “operating system” or baseline states. Someone wise once said, you can become normally happy or normally sad, the amount of work is the same.

I need to warn you though. Change will not be easy. It will not be quick. It will come in spurts, then plateau. You will move quickly past obstacles, then stall. You will feel you have not changed for months or years. Then you will look back and see that indeed, you have moved forward.

I can say this with certainty, for I am proof. But I believed change was possible. Anything was better than what I was.

 

Beginning on the path of self-change:

 

Realise that true self-change is extremely difficult.  Your character and your body enjoy homeostasis.  Any change results in resistance.  If you accept that you will face resistance, then you will be more prepared and able to avoid defeatist self-talk WHEN you fail.  Which will be often.

 

Changing your body will change your character.  Yoga and Akido, like most self-change systems, advocate body training in conjunction with mental preparation.  These systems are founded on the ideals of equality and spiritual awakening, and their bodily training reflects this through a focus on flexibility and peace. Unfortunately, our world is not about to change it’s fundamental attitude to violence.  Therefore being strong of both body and character is paramount. This is the reason I recommend weight-training.

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Yoga at it’s best

 

Do not berate yourself over the inevitable fuck-ups, stalling and fear you will face. Accept that you will fail occasionally. You will take three steps forward and sometimes four back. Beating yourself up will only stall the change you ARE making. If you don’t make your goal today, well, there is always tomorrow.
Think long, long term. There are short cuts, but they are painful, more so than all but the most callous, hardened and solitary can handle. Think in 1 year, 3 year, 5 year, 10+ year increments. Real self change can only reveal itself over these timeframes.

Purchase “Energized Meditation and Other Devices” by Christopher Hyatt. Turn to the exercizes page and begin. Be warned, as it says on the cover, if you don’t really want to change, don’t buy this book.

Set acheivable goals and acheive them. I’m sure you’ve read every goal-setting blog under Sol, so I won’t go into too much detail. I’ll assume that you suck at goal-setting and achieving.  Goal setting only works over time if you start off small, with things you are already achieving. When I work with people, I have them set weekly goals that they are sure to hit. Like doing the laundry, hitting the gym once that week, or filling the car up with petrol. Goal setting works on momentum and self-success built up over time. Once you’ve seen that you CAN hit goals, you gradually build up the difficulty and resistance. If you stall, Don’t berate yourself.  Step back and hit some goals you know you can hit.

Remember that pain is what makes you stronger and more able to bear change. Every tiny bit of resistance you face up to makes it easier next time, whether it’s in the gym, in a relationship, or that cold shower you take every evening.

 

Now, go change, but go slow.